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Day 30

January 30, 2012

Subject:  The Happiest Baby on the Block

Comments:  Another phase of Kalen’s caretaking has begun with my wonderful in-laws in from Connecticut for the next two weeks to care for K while David and I are at work.  I can’t tell you how awesome it is to know that K is in perfect hands.  As much as I miss him every minute, I never worry about him which is an incredible gift that Mike and Nancy are giving me now and my own Mom will give me in a couple of weeks when she takes her two week shift with Kalen.  We are truly blessed to have such wonderful Grandparents for Kalen.

Day 26

January 26, 2012

Subject:  Mommy Time

Camera:  iPhone (why do I insert this into every post?  I think I have taken every single picture blog picture with my iPhone)

Comments:  I am a part of this fabulous group of moms who were all due in October 2011 (some had babies in September, some in November, and a couple were preemies and ended up being born MUCH earlier).   We talk all day, everyday about everything from diaper rash to breast feeding to “crying it out” to relationships with our parents, in-laws and significant others.  We talk about the difficulties of being stay-at-home-moms and moms who work outside of the house.  We support each other.  We advise each other.  We laugh, we cry, we complain, we rejoice.  They are a huge system of support for me as I navigate first-time motherhood.  And I have never met a single one of them.  We came together on Facebook, by way of a message board on the website of What To Expect When You’re Expecting.

You are probably wondering what on earth this picture of a beer has to do with all of that.  It’s just one example of how my life is better because of these women.  Someone asked a question about how to boost their milk supply and one of the mamas answered that she drinks a beer every night while she pumps.  And that she notices a difference in her supply.  I’m not pumping at night, but I sure as heck am having a beer.  So thanks, Stef, for the great idea.  And cheers to all of my October 2011 mamas!

Day 25

January 25, 2012

Subject:  My life

Camera:  iPhone

Comments:  Working out how to balance Kalen, work, my marriage, my house and my personal hygiene has been a little tough on me, as I’m sure it is on every parent.  I work bests with lists, so I decided to sit down and make a schedule of my day, so that I’m not mentally balancing everything I need to accomplish, and so I have a plan of WHEN I’m going to accomplish.  It’s a little humorous/sad to need to put down “take a shower + dry hair”, but I’m afraid if I don’t put it in a time slot, it just won’t get done.

Day 24

January 24, 2012

Subject:  Clean Boy

Camera:  iPhone

Comments:  Sorry about the gaps in posts–just busy over here!  Day 2 of my new work schedule was great.  Getting up at 5:30ish is hard, but it’s totally worth it.  It’s very nice to have the office to myself for an hour or so as well.  My little boy is growing up before my eyes and it’s SO nice to have a couple of extra hours in the day to stare at him.  It’s hard to believe he’s 15 weeks old.  Every once in awhile, I think back to the moment he was born and try to recount every single thing that happened.  But it’s hard because it was so chaotic, I was in so much pain, and I had been up for nearly 48 hours.  What I do remember so vividly is meeting him for the first time.  It wasn’t right away because they had to stimulate him and get him breathing well, but after a few minutes, they laid him in my arms, all swaddled in a white blanket and if I didn’t know it before, I knew it then:  I would do absolutely anything to make sure this beautiful little boy knows how much I love him and that I will do anything for him.

I read a blog post by a pretty well-known mommy blogger called “Don’t Carpe Diem“.  The basic premise was that parenting is hard; it’s a grind and not every minute is going to be enjoyable.  So stop putting so much pressure on yourself to “enjoy every moment”.  She asserts that we don’t like to parent, we like having parented.  When I first read this blog, it rubbed me the wrong way.  I didn’t like its tone and found it difficult to appreciate its message.  Now that I have reread it, several weeks later,  I can say that I agree with the basic theory behind these words, but I also think it’s a luxury to think this way.  I want to and have to savor every moment with Kalen because I don’t get enough of them.  I’m learning to live with this fact, but it makes it that much more important to me that I soak in as much of him and our time together as I possibly can.  I might feel differently about this in a couple of years, when Kalen is writing all over the walls with magic marker and I am simultaneously ripping the markers out of his hands and (god willing) nursing another child.  But for now, as a working mother of one beautiful 15 week old boy, I’m going to carpe the heck out of every diem.

Day 22

January 22, 2012

Subject:  New Car

Camera:  iPhone

Comments:  Got a new car yesterday; my first “mom” car and also my first SUV.  A Ford, of course, because I will ALWAYS be a Ford girl.  This is my second car since we have lived here which is probably strange for most people outside of the Detroit area, but not-so-strange for us Detroiters, I think.  Leasing vehicles is a much more common practice in Detroit than the other places I have lived, so it’s not so unusual to get a new car every 2 years (or 24,000 miles)  🙂

Whenever I’m in a car dealership, I always mentally reminisce about the various cars I have had….

My first car was a Pacific Green Ford Ranger (that’s a pick-up truck for those of you who don’t know), lovingly named Rita.  I got Rita when I was a junior in high school and I worked my first job at Einstein Bagels so I could pay the monthly payment (which was $170).  Pretty much every penny I made went to paying for that car, but I didn’t even mind.  I absolutely loved her and when I had to turn her in after two years (it was a lease), I was truly, truly sad.

The other cars on my resume include a white 2000 Ford Focus (the first or second model year they were out, and no offense, Dad, but they had some MAJOR kinks to work out), a black 2003 (??) Ford Taurus, a black 2011 Ford Focus (the definitely worked out the kinks–the Focus is a great car) and now my blue 2012 Ford Escape.  I am very excited to have more room for Kalen’s gear (his stroller hardly fit in the trunk of the Focus) and more room for tall passengers (I think my Dad might actually be able to sit in the back seat of the Escape without getting leg cramps).

I feel very lucky to have had some great cars in my life and very proud that every single one of them has been a Ford.

Day 20

January 20, 2012

Subject:  D & K

Camera:  iPhone

Comments:  The boys and I went out to dinner tonight to celebrate that I’m changing my schedule at work so I can be home more for the K man.  I have spent the last three weeks agonizing over how I can change my work situation to be with him more and I finally decided that the most likely thing to be approved was for me to still work full time, but change the hours that I work.  So instead of an 8-5 workday, I’ll be working 7-3.

My Mom worked a very similar schedule when my brother and I were growing up, so getting home shortly after 3 feels familiar and comfortable.  Like when Moms are meant to get home or something.

I am so very happy that this worked out for us–it feels like the right thing for my career (i.e. not resenting every second I’m at work) and absolutely the right thing for my family (i.e. getting to cuddle, play with and spend as much time with Kalen as possible).

Day 19

January 19, 2012

Subject:  Hat and Mittens

Camera:  iPhone

Comments:  When I moved to California from Boston, I refused to believe that I would need such cold weather accoutrement as a hat and mittens.  I went all last winter without wearing more than a fleece jacket.  No coat.  No hat.  No mittens.  It was stupid and miserable.  But I was steadfast.  This is CALIFORNIA!  You aren’t supposed to need a hat and mittens in CALIFORNIA!!  Newsflash:  this is NORTHERN California.  It gets cold here.  It was 29 degrees when I left for work yesterday morning.  So last weekend I decided I didn’t want to be cold all winter long this winter and took my winter coat out of garage storage.  I also bought a hat and mittens at Target.  Bonus:  the mittens are also gloves.  Think about that for a second.  Did I just blow your mind?

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